Postitive Being-ness

As the saying goes, “Any situation that you find yourself in is an outward reflection of your inner state of beingness.” This is the case with our career, relationships (family/partner/colleagues), financial, job situation, really anything.

Take for example the inner state/beingness of positivity.

One of the many ways to lead a lavish life is positivity. Positivity is actually a core leadership skill. Often overlooked is that positivity is an emotion that comes from our thoughts - our inner beingness. Positive emotions and thoughts will lead to positive action - our outward reflection.

If you think that someone/something has negative intentions or you attribute negative thoughts to them/it, you will project negative emotions (including cynicism). These will lead you to a negative state of being and uninspiring actions. These actions that leave you mentally/emotionally exhausted and stressed. 

Think about it - has there been a time where you question the rationale of someone’s actions?

You then question in your mind, “Why is [name that person] doing [that thing]? They are not rational; maybe being selfish.” It may be an employee, your teenager (child), your partner/husband/wife, parents, anyone that you regularly interact with.

You then find yourself approaching them with assumptive rhetoric. Although you tell yourself you’re not, or you tell yourself you “have to call them out!” I know the feeling. I’m guilty of it myself but it is less and less now that I coach myself.

Because lavish leaders don’t separate the mentality of work/life, these emotions/thoughts/actions spill into other areas of life. This cycle of emotion/thought/action becomes who you are.

Negative emotions lead to negative thoughts and uninspired actions. To change you have to become a new you. Recreate yourself. It starts with your thoughts and emotions. Inspired emotions and thoughts create inspired actions.

I’m not saying you have to be blissed out positive/happy all the time (it makes you look inauthentic), but be pragmatic. Observe your emotions and thoughts. They tightly wound. Their synergy produces your actions.

I’ve seen miraculous changes in my clients when they become conscious of their emotions and thoughts. By going on a one week “complaint diet,” I’ve noticed how I’ve changed and can coach myself. Quicker than ever, I, like my clients, decide if emotions and thoughts are serving their purpose.  If not, they let them go and make room for the thoughts and emotions that do. They ultimately recreate themselves.

This is how to create positive leadership skills that are truly authentic and lavish.

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